Own Your Sh*t: The Tough Love Reset
Summer is here, we're halfway through 2015... and how is your life looking?
We start the year with lofty goals and visions of rebirth, and I often find people's ambition fizzles out by March. They usually have a series of reasoning for it, but ultimately these are just excuses.
And this is where a very simple (but not always easy to accept) principle comes into play:
Own.
Your.
Sh*t.
Sounds simple enough, right? But it's not. Because owning your shit requires actual ownership of your own life, behaviors, decisions, and results. That is not always cozy for people.
Ownership sounds so simple and logical, but it's not. We're all about owning the cool parts of ourselves, but nobody likes the icky stuff. Nobody likes to own the part of themselves that they haven't tamed yet. The binge eating. The excuse making. The poor financial decisions. Yeah... that ownership blows.
But it doesn't have to be BAD. In fact, owning your sh*t is GOOD! It feels scary but it's good. So what am I referring to?
I'll go through a brief series of examples.
Unhappy with your job? Hate your boss? That sucks. What have you done to change it?
Nothing? How's that going for ya?
Own your sh*t.
Tough Love Reset: Complaining rarely yields much in the way of results. If you don't like your job, find a new one or create your own business. No, no excuses. Yes, you may have a family. You may not have a lot of time to interview. Yes, it is super annoying to find a new job and be the "new kid" at the new employer. But it's that or stay where you're at. Own your shit. Make a change.
Unhappy with where you're at physically? What have you done to change it?
Nothing? Did you try for 3 days and then just give up? Are you still pointing fingers at people around you for your own actions (or lack of actions) as an adult?
Own your sh*t, baby.
Tough Love Reset: Look, I'm not being insensitive. I was teased mercilessly and picked on when I was younger. I had people make fun of how I looked and my appearance when I was a little kid, junior high, and in high school. I get it.
But you're an adult now. Time to stop blaming others for your shattered self esteem. Your self esteem and self image is YOUR responsibility to repair, uphold, and set on a strong foundation. Self-esteem comes from accomplishment and self-love. It's not your family's responsibility to give you a sense of it when you're an adult (when you're a kid or a teen it's different because you're not yet in a place of power to make decisions on your own.) It's not your spouse's or your friend's responsibility to get you where you want to go. It's yours. Your body, your mind, your heart, and your spirit are YOURS to nourish and control. You have the control over it.
Stop fighting it. You'll be okay. Take a deep breath and make the jump. You don't need to totally revamp your life all at the same time. Make baby steps towards your goals. Changing your eating or exercise habits can make a huge difference.
Own.
Your.
Sh*t.
Seriously, stop making excuses. All you're doing is suppressing your own growth, potential, and happiness. If you're an able-bodied adult, you have to stop blaming other people for your lack of happiness. Happiness is a choice and practice.
It doesn't mean it's always easy. It doesn't mean that you're going to have sunshine jetpacked to your butt all the time. But it DOES mean that before you melt down about things, you pause to take a look at your situation and opt to find solutions to them as opposed to pointing fingers.
Tomorrow is a new day. Make new decisions.
Live your life. Own your sh*t. ;)
We start the year with lofty goals and visions of rebirth, and I often find people's ambition fizzles out by March. They usually have a series of reasoning for it, but ultimately these are just excuses.
And this is where a very simple (but not always easy to accept) principle comes into play:
Own.
Your.
Sh*t.
Sounds simple enough, right? But it's not. Because owning your shit requires actual ownership of your own life, behaviors, decisions, and results. That is not always cozy for people.
Ownership sounds so simple and logical, but it's not. We're all about owning the cool parts of ourselves, but nobody likes the icky stuff. Nobody likes to own the part of themselves that they haven't tamed yet. The binge eating. The excuse making. The poor financial decisions. Yeah... that ownership blows.
But it doesn't have to be BAD. In fact, owning your sh*t is GOOD! It feels scary but it's good. So what am I referring to?
I'll go through a brief series of examples.
Unhappy with your job? Hate your boss? That sucks. What have you done to change it?
Nothing? How's that going for ya?
Own your sh*t.
Tough Love Reset: Complaining rarely yields much in the way of results. If you don't like your job, find a new one or create your own business. No, no excuses. Yes, you may have a family. You may not have a lot of time to interview. Yes, it is super annoying to find a new job and be the "new kid" at the new employer. But it's that or stay where you're at. Own your shit. Make a change.
Unhappy with where you're at physically? What have you done to change it?
Nothing? Did you try for 3 days and then just give up? Are you still pointing fingers at people around you for your own actions (or lack of actions) as an adult?
Own your sh*t, baby.
Tough Love Reset: Look, I'm not being insensitive. I was teased mercilessly and picked on when I was younger. I had people make fun of how I looked and my appearance when I was a little kid, junior high, and in high school. I get it.
But you're an adult now. Time to stop blaming others for your shattered self esteem. Your self esteem and self image is YOUR responsibility to repair, uphold, and set on a strong foundation. Self-esteem comes from accomplishment and self-love. It's not your family's responsibility to give you a sense of it when you're an adult (when you're a kid or a teen it's different because you're not yet in a place of power to make decisions on your own.) It's not your spouse's or your friend's responsibility to get you where you want to go. It's yours. Your body, your mind, your heart, and your spirit are YOURS to nourish and control. You have the control over it.
Stop fighting it. You'll be okay. Take a deep breath and make the jump. You don't need to totally revamp your life all at the same time. Make baby steps towards your goals. Changing your eating or exercise habits can make a huge difference.
Own.
Your.
Sh*t.
Seriously, stop making excuses. All you're doing is suppressing your own growth, potential, and happiness. If you're an able-bodied adult, you have to stop blaming other people for your lack of happiness. Happiness is a choice and practice.
It doesn't mean it's always easy. It doesn't mean that you're going to have sunshine jetpacked to your butt all the time. But it DOES mean that before you melt down about things, you pause to take a look at your situation and opt to find solutions to them as opposed to pointing fingers.
Tomorrow is a new day. Make new decisions.
Live your life. Own your sh*t. ;)
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